Lessons I've Learned From Him

I've been chatting with this guy for almost five months now. I don't know if he deserves an introduction because this is definitely a hate blog post for him. So let's start off the lessons.

LESSON 1: When he doesn't call or text everyday then forget about him.

I learned this the hard way and I learned my lesson very well. So there you are, regularly chatting and texting and then he just stopped texting and he was not online anymore. Then you start worrying because maybe he was hospitalized or worst -- dead. And then you reprimanded yourself not asking his address because you can't attend his wake if ever he was dead. Then you start staring at your phone for long hours waiting for a text that eventually did not come. It was three weeks ago that I've last heard of him. Three weeks of thinking unimaginable things happening to him. Three sad and low weeks. And then you come upon a status message of your Facebook friend which states that if he doesn't text or call you everyday then he is just not that into you. Bang! I realized how stupid I was. Letting a guy keep me hanging and wondering. Treating me like a kite. When he can't stand the wind, he cut me off and left me in the azure sky -- to wander and be lost.

LESSON 2: If he is not willing to open up his problem then forget about him.

Girls don't like to be put in the backseat. Maybe some girls does but definitely not me. If you want to be on my front passenger's seat then put me in your front passenger's seat. Don't brush off questions about your problems. Share it. Guys, open yourself up and reveal your shortcomings and insecurities. Girls will appreciate that.

LESSON 3: Never give second chances or any kind of chances.

I hate it when guys ask for second chances and never doing anything to deserve it. Chances are not given, they are earned. Just like respect. You have to prove that you deserve a chance and that means not waiting for the girl to make the move on how you could get that chance and proving your worth. You have to do something to earn it, not wait for a CHANCE to earn it.

LESSON 4: Never say "Sorry" and don't accept any apologies. 

Words mean nothing. Whatever language they are being said, they mean nothing. Actions does. So guys, you should not act pathetically saying sorry all the time when what you did was done in an act of thoughtlessness, insensitivity and negligence. And girls, never accept pity apologies. Just like chances, let them earn your forgiveness through actions.

LESSON 5: Have friends around you.

Good friends. What could I have done without them? When you're feeling low and thinking that the day is the worst day ever, they are there to cheer you up with their endless chatter about nonsense things. Salute your friends! They are way better than potential boyfriends.